right next to you
Having someone close to you who can speak wisdom into your life is indispensable.
They are the one who can help you seen the forest through the trees. Validate you when you have a problem, passion or dream that needs to be encouraged. Keep you on track when you find yourself caught in the threads of anger or un-forgiveness.
A few years ago I was thinking about this kind of relationship in generalities. I really didn’t have anyone in my life who was doing this. Which is dangerous.
At first I was a little upset at God that he would not have put someone in my life to do this – then I realized that I hadn’t been actively pursuing this kind of relationship. So my thought was, what if this person is already in my life and I’m just not leaning in to the friendship?
So I took an inventory of my friends and realized that one guy in my life was consistently able to see the big picture. That he inspired me to do bigger and greater things when we talked. That he would listen to me rant, rave and curse – and without judging me, guide me back toward center.
I just needed to lean in to the friendship.
But it wasn’t long before I realized that just like I needed someone in my life, I also need to be that person for someone else. So I began to look around.
And two other incredible friendships developed.
It’s too easy to float through life and not lean in to the friendships God has placed in our path. And that hurts us all – because we are at our best when we do life together.




