in the moment

There are so many situations where it’s just awkward to know what to say.

Anything involving a hospital as the location.

Any time a marriage is falling apart.

And so we disengage. We don’t pick up the phone. We don’t try. Because we simply don’t know what to say. Or what to do. Or even how to act.

But if we think back to the times of crises in our own lives, it’s not the people who offered advice that meant the most to us. (Most of the time, they said the things that hurt the most.)

It’s the people who just sit in the moment that mean the most. The ones who were there.

There to listen. Laugh. Cry. Curse.

And even though we know that, it’s easy to forget when it’s our turn to impact someone who desperately needs it.

So maybe instead of laying out an agenda, or waiting to muster up the confidence, we should just move forward. Entering in to the moments of crises and hurt that people around us are having.